On track or out of sorts?
Are you getting what you really want from life or do you often feel snowed under, worn out or miserable? If the latter, it may be due to a number of or reasons or a cumulative effect. Frequently it can be due to poor self-belief or a lack of confidence. Self-doubt can contribute to feeling overwhelmed, out of control or directionless. But how do you conquer those unhelpful feelings and learn how to construct a better world for yourself?
Where do you want to go?
Life tends to be easier for those who know exactly where they want to go. With this in mind, why not ask yourself, what your destination is. So often we don’t fully think this through, or if we do, we find lot of excuses as to why none of it will be possible: ‘I’m not smart enough’, ‘I’m no good at .....’, ‘I couldn’t....’, ‘I will never earn that amount of money...’ Over time we don’t even realise we’re holding ourselves back and so become incapable of lifting our own blocks.
The role of social Conditioning
Many of our behaviours are learnt or influenced by work mates, family and friends and we hold back on showing our feelings, especially those that are negative. By keeping our true thoughts hidden and conforming to the ‘social norm’ we can experience devastating mental and emotional blocks which prevent us from reaching our goals and finding real meaning in our lives.
Where is self-fulfilment?
Our lives may seem simpler and easier when we focus on tangible stuff such as our work or domestic life. We attempt to cheer ourselves up by being materialistic, thinking about money and spending that money on buying lots of possessions. By distracting ourselves in this way, we avoid looking inwards or confronting our fears; we lose touch with what is truly valuable and become unable to measure our own worth.
What to do next?
Recognising our negative thoughts or beliefs is the first step to letting them go and moving towards our life goals. It is important to remember however that things cannot be achieved because of what others think of us or how much we have, we have to learn to find the value in ourselves.
